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Things to Say...
- "Our baby died last week and we need you now more than ever."
- "This is going to be as hard for you to hear as it is for me to say, but our baby died last night."
- "I know that you have shared in out excitement throughout this pregnancy. Now I want you to share in our sadness..."
- "This is really hard, but I must tell you about something that has happened..."
Other Possible Ways to Let Your Friends Know...
| Bookmark: |
Give a laminated bookmark with a copy of your baby's footprints and a poem written on it to your friends. "In loving memory of (baby's name). Born and Died on (date). |
| Birth Announcement: |
Use these suggestions, or create your own.
(Ideas adapted from www.griefwatch.com
- "We don't pretend to understand, only to accept and to love..." Our baby (name) was born on (date) and died on (date). Even though (she/he) was with us for only a short time we loved (her/him) very much. (Parents' Names).
- "In the twinkling of an eye this little one came into out hearts..." "We are sad to announce the short life of our daughter, (name). She came and went in an instant on (date) taking with her a lifetime of hopes and dreams we had for her. We will hold her in our hearts forever." (Parents Names)
- Some people only dream of angels. We held one in our arms..." "Because we know you care about us, we want you to know that on (date), our wished-for baby passed quickly through our lives. We are saddened, but remain hopeful that someday soon our desire to have a child will be fulfilled." (Parents Names)
- "In an instant you touched our hearts forever..." "Our twins (names) we born on (date). (Name) died shortly after birth. We are happy to report that his sister (name) is gaining weight and will be coming home soon. (Name) will always be remembered by (twin and parents).
- "An angel sent from Heaven returned to Heaven..."Our baby boy (name) was silently born on (date). We will miss the warmth of his touch, the sparkle in his eye, and the patter of his feet. But his love for us and our love for him will bind us together forever." (Parents Names)
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| Personalized Letter: |
"Dear (Name),
Acknowledgement of our baby's short life may be upsetting to you. You may think the less said, the better. Until now, we did not know how important it would be for us to tell you of our baby even though our baby died. You can help us through this difficult time by letting us talk about our sorrow when we feel the need, allowing us to cry when we want, and not pretending that everything is okay... when it's not. It will take time, but with your support we will make it." "In loving memory of (baby's name). Born and Died on (date)."
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