Coping with Grief

It is difficult for someone who has never lost a baby to comprehend what you are going through. Often, people do not know what to say to you, and in their attempts to make you feel better they may say things that upset you or make you angry. Most people do not purposely try to be insensitive; they simply do not understand the impact the loss has had on you.

The best way to deal with people when you are grieving is to be honest and tell them what you need. Instead of saying, "You just do not understand how I feel" say, "I am having a bad day, and it really hurts my feelings when you say things like that."

Some women have found it helpful to write notes or letters to their family, friends, and/or coworkers explaining the circumstances surrounding their loss and what they need from them. Often, people are surprised at the depth of your feelings.

For other resources refer to the "How Can I Help?" page of this board.